If you are like women, you are notoriously embarrassed when it comes to discussing sex with anyone, even your husband. On the other hand you would like nothing better than to be able to tell him what you want without having to get all flushed in the face and embarrassed. It’s an age old problem. You are taught as a young girl that you don’t talk about sex and then you get married and find out it can be fun. If you could only learn how to get your wants conveyed without having to actually say it — well, you can if you use your imagination and get past those fears.
Take control. If you’re tired of the quickie or even just the fact that it’s the same old missionary style and you really want to try something different, Female First advices that you just roll over during the act. While you’re on top hold his hands and now you control the pace without saying a word. He will appreciate your take-charge attitude and you’ll both enjoy the end results. Another suggestion from Female First is to find a way to word what you want that isn’t necessarily sexual and can be said in normal conversation outside the bedroom, for example, if you really want to try oral sex, you could slyly tell him you’d like for him to kiss you all over or even get the song “Kiss You all Over” and play it for him. He’ll get the message and you’ll get the results. (See Resources for Link)
Dress the part. If you are in the mood for a particularly hot night in bed and not just another jump-your-bones and go to sleep, then dress the part. The Frisky site suggests wearing something that you know will turn him on; they go even further and suggest it be something just safe enough to wear in public, like those short shorts that leave no room for doubt. Then, once you get him home, take the lead and make the moves on him, you don’t have to talk, you can put his hands where you want them, if he moves off the spot, slide them back and let him know with your moans that he has found the spot. (See Resources for Link)
Take a love quiz or play a love game. Loving You suggests taking the love quiz together to open up conversation that is not serious in tone and gets the two of you talking without actually talking about each other. Another way to discuss what you want with your man is to not discuss it about the two of you, create a story about someone you know and what you heard her talking about doing with her husband. Gauge his reactions and go from there. If he seems willing you can continue the conversation in the bedroom.