Everyone wants to be loved. If you have your eye on a particular fellow, you may be eager to induce this beefcake to fall madly in love with you so that you can both ride off together into the sunset. While nothing is foolproof when it comes to love, you might be able to likelihood that the man of your dreams looks as favorably upon you as you do upon him.
Before you focus energy on getting a guy to become infatuated with you, put some thought into the man you select. The “Psychology Today Magazine” website cautions love seekers to avoid relationships in which they share no mutual interests with their partners. If you let your eyes alone do the picking, you may end up with an attractive object of your affection, but the likelihood that the relationship will have staying power isn’t great.
Your desired dude is not going to fall in love with you from afar. If you want him to want you, you need to be around. Hang out with the man you desire. Take part in activities that he enjoys, socialize with his group of friends and visit places where you know he will be. Don’t make your presence a 24/7 thing, but make sure that you are around enough so that he is induced to think about you.
Men want to protect women. This desire, reports the “Cosmopolitan Magazine” website, is programmed into them. Let the guy you want to woo do this. If you have a leaky sink, don’t repair it yourself. Instead, call upon the assistance of the man you admire. Likewise, if it’s time to head home at night, don’t clutch your mace and go it alone. Instead, let him walk you though the dark and dangerous streets to your home.
Give Him Room to Breathe
While you must be present for him to think about you, if you are too present he will think about you negatively. Men need privacy and independence, reports “Cosmopolitan Magazine.” If you try to invade his space or integrate yourself into every aspect of his life, he will feel that boundaries are being crossed and will likely begin to see your presence as more of a nuisance than a delight.
Watch for Signs
You can’t read a man’s mind, but you can deduce what he is thinking by watching for outward signs. Be on the lookout for signs that may indicate his feelings. If he scoots closer to you on the couch, for example, he is likely beginning to feel for you what you feel for him. Conversely, if he stops returning your calls, your current tactics may not be working, and it may be time for a new game plan.
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