The “Men’s Health Magazine” website reports that as many as 30 percent of men have problems with premature ejaculation. This means a whole lot of quickies, which may translate into an unsatisfying sex life for you, especially when it happens so often. Women can also have problems with vaginal dryness, which can make longer lasting sex impossible. If you both want to have sex that lasts a lot longer, you need to work together to find solutions. Delaying orgasm could make you experience better intimacy in your relationship.
Lengthen your masturbatory sessions. When you masturbate, you probably do your best to hurry up and get it over as soon as possible, worried that someone might discover what you’re doing. This trains your body to reach an orgasm as quickly as possible. Instead, you need to train your body to last a bit longer before reaching orgasm, so try drawing out your masturbation. Tell your guy to do the same.
Increase the amount of foreplay. If you or your partner thinks that “sex” means “penis inside a vagina,” you’ve got a long way to go. Sex includes a wide range of actions, like kissing, licking and sucking and all of that attention doesn’t have to focus on the genitals either. Discuss your need for more foreplay with your guy.
Change what you’re doing before he has an orgasm. Undoubtedly, your guy knows when he’s about to have an orgasm. As it approaches, encourage him to pull out and change to doing something else, like giving you oral sex. By stopping the direct stimulation, he will not orgasm at that time and can go back for more.
Use positions that don’t cause muscle tension for your man. The Ask Men website reports that positions that require a lot of muscle tension in men–such as man-on-top–can increase premature ejaculation. Changing to a position that allows him to relax, such as doggy style or woman-on-top, can help him to prolong the sensations.
Use a personal lubricant. You cannot last a long time having sex if your vagina becomes too dry. A lubricant can keep things moist and pain-free.