Although you entered your marriage with great expectations, you many eventually determine that you want a divorce. Deciding to get a divorce requires serious contemplation and soul searching. Reaching this decision marks the beginning of your divorce proceedings. Like other things in life, men and women respond differently to the emotional, social and financial impacts of divorce. Divorced men must deal with many changes, including fathering responsibilities, financial standards, living arrangements and emotional adjustments.
Explore your feelings for wanting a divorce. Like deciding to get married, deciding to get a divorce requires deliberation and the ability to weigh the pros and cons. Consider your alternatives, such as counseling, mediation and legal separation. Avoid later regrets by exploring other avenues prior to filing for divorce. Consider how you will tell your wife that you want a divorce.
Although many men experience an increase in their financial wealth after a divorce, others suffer from money difficulties. You may find that alimony and child support deplete your regular paycheck. Review your earning capacity, expenses and assets before you begin your divorce proceedings. Consult an attorney that specializes in financial law or seek the services of a financial adviser. Compile bank statements, utility bills, credit card statements, retirement account information and loan documents. You must provide this financial information during your divorce proceedings.
Both men and women experience emotional difficulties during a divorce, but men may have a more difficult time exploring and discussing their feelings. You may experience frustration, anger and sadness. Talk to a professional therapist or consult a spiritual adviser for help in dealing with your emotions.
Your divorce can affect many aspects of your life, including your relationship with your children. Decide how you want the court to decide custody issues. Document the amount of time you spend with your children to provide an accurate record to the court if you and your wife disagree on parenting time. Encourage an open and trusting relationship with your children by discussing their feelings about the divorce, including their fears and concerns.
Encourage a working relationship with your wife. Although your marriage is over, you may still need to work with her on financial issues or parenting concerns. Adjusting from life as a married husband to a single man can take time and energy. Take your time and decide what you want in a relationship, encouraging friendships as well as romantic interests.
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