You’ve been seeing your partner for a few months. You are not sure whether you are ready to move on or go forward with your relationship. Certain feelings can confuse you and make you think you are in love, when really you just like a person’s face, body or smell. It may be time for you to check in with yourself to see if you really love him, or if you just love the idea of him.
Smile when you see or think about your partner. If you are truly in love with someone, you may smile uncontrollably the minute you see him, according to Drs. Charles D. Schmitz and Elizabeth A. Schmitz on the website for “Psychology Today Magazine.” Examine your physical response whenever he walks into the room or whenever he passes through your thoughts. If your heart beats faster or you get goosebumps, that may be a sign that you are really in love.
Talk about your partner frequently in a positive manner. When you are out with your friends and the talk turns to your men, say only good things about him. Your friends may grow tired of you talking about your love all the time, but according to “Psychology Today Magazine,” constantly thinking and talking about someone is a sign you are in love with him.
Feel what he is feeling. If you truly are in love with someone, you may be able to pick up on his unspoken thoughts and emotions. If you cannot pick up on unspoken tension in a relationship, that should be a warning sign that things aren’t meant to be. You should be able to empathize with your partner to strengthen your relationship, according to Dr. Judith Orloff in “Psychology Today Magazine.” Pick up on the signals your partner sends out when he is angry or upset and talk to him to get him to express those feelings in a positive way.
Live your lives separately while still being together. In the early stages of a relationship, when you are infatuated with each other, it’s easy to ignore your other relationships and interests. Doing so can be dangerous to your health and relationship. If you are reluctant to go out and live your life or to let your partner do anything without you, it may be because you are using him as a crutch to help you through life or because you don’t trust him. You can’t love your partner unless you trust him.
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