Even the best marriages can end in divorce. Like many life-changing decisions, divorce requires deliberation and careful contemplation. After beginning the divorce process, some couples wonder if they really want to split up. If you find yourself having second thoughts about getting divorced and wish you could reconcile with your husband, you may want to try salvaging your marriage. Like many aspects of your relationship, stopping the divorce procedures requires effort and determination.
Considerations
Consider the implications of stopping your divorce and explore your feelings about your marriage. Determine whether you really want to make your marriage work or just want to avoid the pain of a divorce. Consider what effect stopping the divorce will have on your children and yourself. Decide if you really want to get back together or just need more time to make your decision. A legal separation may provide an opportunity to put your divorce on hold while you determine what route you want to take.
Benefits
Working through your differences rather than seeking a divorce may help you build a strong relationship with your spouse. Staying married may also provide financial stability. You may want to know that you did everything you could to salvage your marriage, even if you later decide to divorce.
Communication
Poor communication may be a main element in your marital problems. Let your husband know how you feel about your impending divorce. Tell him you want to try reconciling and wish to stop the divorce proceedings, or at least put them on hold for now. Talk openly about your feelings and your desire to make your marriage work.
Legal Process
Once you both decide to halt the divorce, you must notify the court of your decision. Divorce proceedings regulate deadlines for filing responses and motions. Notify your attorney as soon as you decide to halt your divorce proceedings. A court clerk can also tell you what your state requires to halt the legal proceedings and close the court case.
Assistance
Many couples require outside help to ensure their best chances at a successful reconciliation. Seek marriage counseling through the services of a licensed therapist or set up an appointment with a spiritual leader. Ask your family and friends to support your attempt to rebuild your marriage.
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