Let’s face it. Pregnancy changes your sex life. Period.

Your breasts are growing.  Your moods are swinging.  Your hormones are causing physical changes you never expected.  These changes can lead to a hot and spicy afternoon rendezvous… or they can cause you to experience cravings, crying, and constipation.

You may also be having trouble adjusting to the curvier, more voluptuous you. Seeing your pregnant body take on a new, womanly shape may feel uncomfortable. You may not feel sexy and may even be wondering if your new curves are appealing to your partner. Have you ever even imagined that pregnancy and sexy could be in the same sentence? Well, we are here to tell you that yes, indeed, it can!

Sexy comes in many shapes and sizes. It’s about how you feel about yourself and your sexuality that matters the most. Have you taken the time to admire your new lovely, lady lumps? Go ahead and give yourself permission to love your new body.  In fact, you can celebrate your pregnant body with belly casting, pregnancy photography, henna belly art,  belly painting, or wearing clothing and/or lingerie that makes you feel sexy and alive. The more that you celebrate your sexuality, the easier it will be to discuss your needs and desires with your partner.

On the other hand, don’t worry if your libido has diminished. This is also normal during pregnancy.  There are many ways to experience love and intimacy with your partner, and staying physically and emotionally connected during your pregnancy is critical to the health of your partnership and, ultimately, your family. Keep in mind a little creativity in the bedroom (or any other room) can lead to new ways to enjoy sex.

The hormone that is released during lovemaking is oxytocin, the love and bonding hormone. According to the book The Greatest Pregnancy Ever, you can be comforted to know that your baby is not stressed by intercourse. In fact, she receives benefits from the oxytocin that is flowing. Go ahead. Get your groove on!

Top Five Ways to Heat it Up

1. Sex dates – Plan a time to get sexy during the time of day that you normally have the most energy. This may require creative lunch dates or trying morning sex.

2. Talk about it – Tell your partner how you feel and what you might enjoy. Ask your partner to do the same. Don’t worry if your not exactly on the same page. Be open and go with the flow.

3.  Dress up (or down) – Whether you decide to wear maternity lingerie or your birthday suit, dress in what makes you feel sexy.  Even when you are not in the mood, sometimes the ritual of getting ready and making yourself feel beautiful can you on.

4. Get creative – Sex in pregnancy can involve the need for creative positioning, a sense of adventure, and even a sense of humor. It’s time to dust of your copy of the Kama Sutra and try out those prenatal yoga poses.

5.  Useful tools – Sometimes nature can use a hand and there are many products designed to enhance your experience. There are all sorts of products from personal lubricant, to specially designed pillows, to personal “massagers” all designed with your pleasure in mind.

Making time to enjoy an intimate relationship with your partner, ultimately results in a healthier relationship, healthier pregnancy, and happier family.

For more information on sex in pregnancy and during the postpartum period, check out http://www.thegreatestpregnancyever.com.  Also available on Kindle!