How do you keep it going? How do you keep the passion alive? How do you make the time? Now with the return of all our favorite TV shows, exhaustion from the kids, stress from work, our hubby’s exhaustion from work, sex can kinda feel like our youth…a fading memory. So how do you, in the words of Dr. Ruth, make time for pleasure?
How Often Should I Have it?
Well I’ll tell you, it’s a fact that regular sex is proven to keep a relationship healthy, keep you healthy, and keep fights at bay. All from sex. And I think I need to stress that frequency requirements are different for everyone. For some, it’s daily, for some it’s 3 times a week, for some once a week, and for some, maybe once every 10 days. If you’re thinking, “I’m happy if it’s once a month!” then pay attention because you’re not having enough! Here are some great tips on improving your intimacy with your partners, and deriving more satisfaction and pleasure from your marriage. If you’re stuck sitting on the fence in your sex life, take the jump ladies! You might just have a good time!
1. Don’t Be a Spectator in Your Own Sex Life
Think about that for a minute. Have there been times when you’re lying there, like a dead fish, waiting for it to be over so you can watch a show, return a call, or get some zzzz’s? File your nails? You owe it to your partner and YOURSELF to not have an out-of-body sexual encounter. Get into it, ladies! Even if it starts out forced, eventually, if you surrender and let yourself go, you won’t just be a spectator but an active participant!
2. Make Yourself Feel Sexy
I am soooo guilty of this. I don’t own so much as a pair of pajamas. I only wear fluffy cozy bathrobes. I don’t wear makeup, and I’m in glasses 90% of the time. I love my husband so much, and feel so comfortable with him that I let him see ALL OF ME, ALL THE TIME. I’m starting to think this is a problem. The expensive lingerie I bought for my honeymoon could honestly be returned it’s so brand new. So when he asks me to make the effort, I try. But it’s important to make the effort. I am going to do this more. Go figure, for all the men who beg their wives to come to bed naked, my husband begs me to come to bed dressed! To sport a new outfit! But seriously, when we feel sexy, we ARE sexy. I’m in.
3. Keep Things Spontaneous
It’s okay to tell your husband that you want to try new things, just don’t plan all the intricate details! Let things evolve and go where they will. Even if you only get started late at night, those endorphins will keep you going the next day. Don’t let the clock be your guide if you’re having fun.
4. You Can Initiate, Too!
For so many women who think a man should always be the one to initiate sex — come on ladies, we’re living in the 21st century. Now when I say initiate, I don’t just mean in bed. I mean, send dirty texts during the day, surprise him on his lunch hour for a “quickie” if you’re nearby (yes, it’s possible), leave post-its around hinting what you want later in the bedroom (just make sure the kids don’t see it!).
Rediscover Your Partner TONIGHT
So ladies, if you went to bed angry last night, or are feeling hostile today towards your partner, remember why you got together in the first place. I have one goal for today…to get you to rediscover your partner. To fall in love again with your partner. TONIGHT. And when those warm fuzzies creep up, jump on it.
About the Author
With 18 years sales experience, and 14 years marketing experience, Erica Diamond was a born entrepreneur. After using a small savings from her first job as a Marketing Manager for a large corporation, Erica started Unique Corporate Gifts at 24 years old, a promotional products company, and sold it three years ago to Canada’s Largest Bag Retail Chain. Her ongoing volunteer work never tires her and she loves everything women, business and entrepreneurship related. She is a board member of her son’s school, has written three children’s books, and recently completed a television show that she is currently shopping around. Erica is a wife and mother of two young boys. Erica writes her own Blog, Women on the Fence gives Sales and Marketing Conferences for Entrepreneurs and young businesses, speaks publicly, and mentors other entrepreneurs.