You may be a mom now, but you probably still remember the first time you had sex. For some people, the first time can be a wonderful experience and for others, it can be awkward or even painful. The more physically and emotionally prepared someone is for sex, the more likely it will be for the experience to be a good one, according to the Palo Alto Medical Foundation. When your children are old enough, you might want to talk with them about possible problems that can happen when having sex for the first time.
Some teenagers feel pressured into losing their virginity. Being pushed into sex is not a good reason to have sex for the first time and is likely to lead to problems or feelings of regret, according to the Avert website. Some teens may not be emotionally ready, and others have religious beliefs that premarital sex violates.
A woman can get pregnant the first time she has sex. Stress to your daughter the importance of using contraception. If the contraceptive choice is not a condom, the first time couple should use a condom anyway, in addition to the other method, to prevent sexually transmitted diseases.
Some people may feel embarrassed about being seen naked and feel generally uncomfortable. Explain to your teen that if he doesn’t feel comfortable and feels this kind of shyness, then he might not be ready to have sex.
Let your teen know that sometimes first-time sex can hurt. The woman has a hymen, a small piece of skin across the vaginal opening, that may hurt and bleed when it breaks. It can also be painful to have sex before the woman is ready. Her vagina may not be lubricated or moist, making it difficult for the man’s penis to enter the vagina. It takes a woman’s body about eight minutes to produce enough lubrication to be ready for intercourse, according to the Palo Alto Medical Foundation.
Sometimes women and men do not have an orgasm the first time they have sex. This could be because of nervousness or worrying. If your teen is worried about getting an STD, what sex might mean to the relationship or any possible consequences, she may not be able to enjoy the sex. Premature ejaculation is common for men their first time and could be another reason the women may not reach orgasm. Some men can also lose their erection because of nervousness, due to performance anxiety.
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