If you’re finding yourself less interested in sex than you used to be, you’re not alone. According to Patricia Koch, Ph.D., of Pennsylvania State University, one in three women will experience a loss of sex drive at some point in their lives. Because there are a wide variety of medical reasons–such as high blood pressure, diabetes and medication side effects that can affect your interest in sex–the first and most important thing you should do is to have a complete medical checkup to be sure there isn’t an underlying medical cause for your lack of libido.
Talk to your partner about your feelings and lack of interest in sex, making sure that he does not feel that you are trying to blame your lack of libido on him. By opening the door to this often-taboo subject, you can work together to find things that might affect your libido. Often, trying different positions, places or integrating toys into your sex life will boost your interest. Plan some special time together to alleviate the routine that most couples fall into. This can be a romantic dinner or a night at a spa or hotel. Often, you will find having a conversation about your sexual likes, dislikes, needs and fantasies to be stimulating itself.
Stress can be a prime killer of a woman’s sex drive, and If you’re like many women you find yourself juggling the hours of your day to find time for everything that you need to get done. Work, children, partner and home all require your attention. Often, the meals, cleaning and bill paying are added to the mix until your days become a blur. While the chores must be done, try to delegate as much as possible so you can take time for yourself. A bubble bath, pedicure, manicure, lunch with friends or an hour with a book can do wonders for your self-esteem and energy level and might increase your sex drive as well.
While fast food and vending machines may save time, poor nutrition will wear you down in the long run. Plan your days to include balanced meals, and you’ll find yourself with more energy and a better attitude as well as a healthier body, and the extra bonus of an increased sex drive.
Exercising on a regular schedule can add a boost to your libido. According to the MayoClinic.com, both strength training and aerobic exercise can increase your stamina, reduce stress, make you feel better about yourself, lower depression and enhance your sex drive.
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